Sunday, February 26, 2012

Making Things Right

This photo has nothing to do with the post, but it
sure looks pretty!

Have you ever walked away from a situation and wished that you'd said or done something. I think we all do it. Sometimes it's a passing thought that you wish you'd shared, but it can often be something more intense. I've often regretted not saying something more brilliant. Sometimes I wish I'd been braver.

I was at a vocal competition with one of my older daughters when I was approached by one of the other parents. He singled me out as someone to talk to when he saw a tote bag that my daughter was carrying that had the name of her well known music school. I had been talking to another father when the man asked about the tote bag and started a conversation. When he found out that I home school my kids, he began to bash public schools. I felt terrible knowing that the other father I had been talking to has his child in public school. He must have felt horrible when he heard that comment. And guess what I did? Absolutely nothing!

I kicked myself, figuratively speaking, when I got home. How I wished that I had spoken up and told him that I knew some wonderful kids in all types of schools! I'm far from shy and this would not have been a stretch for me to speak up. I was bummed for the next day knowing that I had not stood up for the other parent and even pointed out what a lovely daughter he had. I then wondered what the other dad had thought of me. I eventually had to just let it go. I can sometimes drive myself crazy trying to second guess situations!

Yesterday I ran into the parent who could have been offended. I told him how bad I felt when the comment was made. I basically told him just what I told you. He was with his lovely daughter and his wife when I ran into them. All of them reacted so warmly and I felt so incredible just knowing that I had been able to make things right.

Thanks for listening!

13 comments:

  1. we all have had moments like this. glad you got to close yours. :)

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  2. It is hard to try to be "politically correct", which it sounds like you were trying to do. But you made it right by your resolution. That took both courage and humility. Bless you for it.

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  3. I know what you mean. Yesterday, as I was coming out from the grocery store pushing an extremely heavy cart, a man asked me in Polish something I didn't understand. I said, "I speak English." He then motioned for me that he would push my cart for me to my car. Obviously for a small fee. I told him no. Then I walked off. I immediately thought about it. What is the big deal. Here is a man who was willing to work for some money, rather than sit and beg. (Believe me, it was work to push my cart.) I told myself that once I unloaded my groceries and returned the cart, I would give him the coin for my shopping cart and 10 zloty. Guess what? He was no where. I couldn't find him anywhere. When I got home, all I could think was "entertaining angels unaware". I felt badly and I asked forgiveness.

    Don't feel so badly about your missed opportunity to say something. It is what we do afterwards that matters. When we are convicted and do something about it, then we know we have learned something.

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  4. We all have moments like this. I am glad you saw this man again and made it right.
    Don't be so hard on herself - it happens to all of us.

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  5. Perhaps this will make a difference in the future. As for schooling choices, I've taught kids who went to public schools and those who were home schooled until they got to high school (in addition to those who never went to a public school). There is no one system that is the best for all, and a lot depends on the actual education the kids are getting. Some people just don't think any idea other than their own can be appreciated. I say stick up for your thoughts and let them out.

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  6. I always hate it when I am in those kind of situations. I am so glad you were able to run into the other family and explain. I would rethink it too much too. I never can think on my feet.
    At least it turned out to be okay.

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  7. Yes, I hate when I go silent. Especially when it comes to kids, but just recently I have been more vocal when something crappy is happening..even if it means I get to feel uncomfortable.

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  8. I've been there. It's almost worse than being the one who says something offensive (usually unintentionally in my case). It's good that you got the chance to make things right.

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  9. Been in your shoes before. It makes me feel awful when I realize I should have said something and didn't. Glad you got to make it right.

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  10. I think we have all been there...I am not good at a quick answer but I can always think of something later that I should have said....I am so glad you were able to talk to the other Dad; I know he appreciates your heart......and in the end that's what matters...what's in your heart.....

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  11. What a blessing for you to have got the opportunity to put things right. Often we don't .... been there, and you have that 'sick' feeling in the pit of your stomach every time you think about it. Oh, it's soooo easy to think of the right thing to say.... just not at the right time.
    A x

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  12. We have all had those moments. Glad that you were able to make things right.

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  13. I do this sort of thing often, too: stew over things I wish I had said...or didn't. So wonderful that you were able to make it right. I think God knew how much it meant to you. :)
    Sorry Violet hasn't written. She lost your address and I've been too busy. I finally located the email with your address, so I'll send this letter out today (this is the second she's written waiting on me. So sorry!)

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